Ritual For Murdered M/M Dead

[goatgodschild]

Ave Antinous!
Once a month, since last October (2025), I perform a ceremony for the m/m murdered dead that were killed, and not given the honor that many other queer dead have been able to receive. Victims who were not identified, given offerings, or otherwise remembered. Many ceremonies are provided for other murder victims or queer dead, but there did not seem to be one for these martyrs of Antinous.

This is the ritual that I perform:

First, I make oatcakes. These are oatmeal pancakes, but one day I hope to make proper oatcakes, as they are made in Greece. During this time, I will light the rainbow candle I have.

When I offer scents, I burn the rainbow candle and spray perfume into the air. The perfume I have is Jean-Paul Gaultier's Le Male Pride 2024. I have not chosen incense to go along with this, but the incense burner I use is shaped like a peacock.

When I finish preparing the oatcakes, I blow out the candle and go back to my room with them.

I turn on the "1970's Gay Mix" playlist I have, based on the songs listed in the book "The First Official Gay Handbook", which largely describes gay culture in the 1970's.

I perform the Sphere of Protection ritual, and put on my deathwork garb. This is the mask of Dionysos, the girdle of the Moon, and the Infernal knife.

I place the oatcakes on my folding table, and pour alcohol and nephalia. I add pomegranate syrup to the nephalia and the alcohol, to stand in for blood, but this is not necessary.

Finally, I invite the dead in. In my experience, they arrive from the West, so I sit in the East. They come in, eat and drink and listen to music. After a while, I let them know that they may keep eating and drinking until sunup, and then they must leave. The offerings will return the following month.

I place the offerings on my desk, fold up the table, turn off the music, put away the deathwork garb, and go to bed.

The offerings of food and drink may be consumed the next day.